It will be a lie if we say that any of us has never failed in the walk of life. Small or big, we have all faced the failure in our face. Be it academics, playground, relationships, business, or any other thing, we have all experienced failures that rock our world. The famous proverb “Failures are the pillars of success” aims to realize that every failure can be turned into an opportunity to learn the lesson. Every setback can be used to rectify our mistakes and improve our lives. The blunt truth about life is that failures will happen. No matter how good you plan on something or how good you perform, sometimes failures are inevitable. We hate to fail, but we must understand that failure is a reality of life.
We all make mistakes, and at times we fail; as much as it hurts to fail, it is an integral part of life. Failure is life’s great teacher; it’s nature’s knife that whittles away at all the excess, shredding down egos as it molds and shapes us through divine intentions. It’s through failure that we learn the most significant lessons that life could teach us. Below are listed five crucial life lessons to be learned from failures:
When you fail, at first, it hits as a brick hit you right on your forehead. The first thing that comes to mind is to sink into disbelief, self-pity, fear, depression, etc. You need to separate the failure from your identity. Just because you failed in something, it doesn’t mean you are a failure. Failing really makes you feel you are pretty useless because if you weren’t, you probably would have gotten it right! Sometimes this comes from knowing or feeling that you know all you need to know enough to avoid failure.
The lesson to realize is that you can always learn more, you can always change your circumstances, and no matter how you feel, you can still change it. Failures don’t define you; you are more than that. You have more of your personality. Personalizing failure can wreak havoc on our self-esteem and confidence. So instead of doing that, pick up every stone thrown at you and build with them. Instead of going deeper and fathoming into self-doubt, look up and see the bright side of what has happened.
It is a fact that if you do not fail in any of your attempts, how do you learn to be better? How do you become more knowledgeable, understanding, and thoughtful? People say experience is the best teacher. If you accept that to be accurate, you need to take failure as one of the many teachings you earn from experience. Hence, you get to learn from failures. Think about failure as lessons paid in the journey of life. Yes, it’s OK to fail. Let’s start normalizing failures. The aphorism we learn from failure is real. Be open to failures with your mind, eyes, and ears. The teachings are there for you to understand and do better next time.
Allow yourself to fail if you want to learn from failure. When you are too circumspect, you do not allow yourself to take any risks. If you are safe all the time, then you are not allowing yourself to learn from failure. Give yourself the freedom to fail and see how the lessons of success open up for you.
When the responsibility of failures is entirely on your shoulders, shouldn’t be the approval to try something new should be holistically yours only? Do not ask for validation from anyone.
Instead of seeking validation, ask yourself first. Think about what you have done right, what you can do better, and what you should stop doing. Develop a great sense of self-worth.
Hopping back is certain, but you have to be willing enough to hop back. When a piece of glass is shattered, it is broken into a thousand pieces, but the pieces can still be put together to make something new. If you fail in something, No matter how deep you find yourself, never give up on yourself, but surely pick up the pieces and build again.
When you fail, you start to doubt yourself; you start suspecting that people may not believe in whatever you do; next, they will challenge your ability to follow through. Don’t let it get to you. Instead, pick up yourself, gather all your strength, and try again. Try better this time.
There can be no progress without failure. You should embrace failure as an occasion to learn, and you will learn from failure. The price for learning from failure may seem too high sometimes, but you will somehow discover it a valuable price to pay in the long run. If you fail, never take the failure personally, look into the bright side of your journey, and inside it, you can find a path meant for you. Remember, people fail forward to success.